Archive for May, 2011
Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational
Monday, May 23, 2011
“Walk a mile in a man’s shoes and you will see what it is like to be him and you may shift your perspective”, my grandmother said this to me any time I began to judge another. It was an awesome lesson to learn at such a young age and I have used it many times throughout my life. This is simple lesson has allowed me to view the world with eyes wide open.
This weekend I attended the Winner’s Circle Weekend put on by The Masters Circle in Sarasota, Fl. Knowing that BJ Palmer had a house there where he spent his last days and wrote many of his books, I had a hunch what one event of the “secret” weekend might be a visit there. Little did I know the entire weekend I would be walking in BJ Palmer’s shoes?
Friday morning we started the day at BJ’s house. As I exited the van, a silence swept over me as I realized I was about to walk through the house where BJ walked, slept, ate, had conversations with friends, wrote books, dreamed, passed on from his mortal life, and so much more. I was overwhelmed with emotions and still at this time I don’t think I could fully list all the emotions I felt; it may take awhile or I may never delineate them.
My journey began walking up the driveway and past his dolphin fountain, his head cast, and his signature in cement I felt a sense of overwhelm realizing I was walking through a piece of history. I walked up the vibrant, primary stone path that lead to the door and entered into the developer of chiropractic’s home and for the two hours I was allotted I would be slipping into his shoes and see the world as he saw it. I’ve always loved seeing friends homes, in my opinion, it allows you to see who they really as our homes are expressions of who we are as individuals.
As I walked through his house it was eclectic to say the least, some said it was wild and I even heard “weird” to me it felt just right. I can honestly say it felt like home. I’ve been through so many museums; my dad wanted us to know our history, and in all the museums I have been through I have never been to one that was so “real”. Dr. Sid, who has a summer residence next door, did an awesome job preserving BJ’s home and in doing so has preserved BJ’s legacy.
BJ’s house was an expression of who he was a brilliant visionary and took the idea of his father and made it a household name. Love him or hate him he believed in Innate and knew that’s expression was imperative for full expression of life. His house was much the same, an expression of his life. The house was filled with history; I thoroughly walked each hallway making sure to absorb every bit of information possible.
I had several pivotal moments but want to share with you the three most pivotal. As I stood in his bedroom at the foot of the bed in which he passed flipping through pictures and paperwork in plastic coverings. In one of the plastic coverings was the death certificate of BJ and DD right next to each other. On the back of the same plastic covering were photos of his funeral. Even as I write this, I am overwhelmed with emotion. One photo was an image of him in his casket, as I looked at his face laying there tears filled my eyes. At that time his death was so real and I quietly thanked him for the strength of his vision and for fulfilling his purpose regardless of what anyone thought and regardless of the opposition. BJ is truly a pioneer and he is a man of strength, dedication, and determination. We could all learn a lot from BJ Palmer and the foundation he laid so that chiropractic has its place. We MUST preserve our heritage.
My next pivotal moment was in the same room where I stepped into his giant wooden clogs, they were huge. The moment I slid my feet into the clogs, I attempted to wrap myself around the realization of what big shoes I have to fill. I have always thought that but this time my thought was a bit different. This time I didn’t ask how I was going to get them to fit or wonder when I was going to “grow into them”. This time I just accepted these were my shoes and I would make them fit. I was handed the shoes of BJ, DD, and many others the day I received my diploma and especially with the current state of chiropractic, I have no choice but to wear them even if I have to shove toilet paper into them to make them fit or wear two pairs of socks. I also realized I wouldn’t have been given the shoes if I wasn’t prepared to wear them and that it was my own thoughts keeping them from fitting. Regardless, since that day I have thought twice about the shoes I was called to step into and I have been wearing them with even more pride.
The last moment was extremely personal and hit me at a soul level. There was a picture on the wall about leadership. To sum it up, as I don’t have know it verbatim, leadership is lonely at times, the more opposition you face and more you are thought to be controversial the more you are leading. Isn’t that the truth? I heard many times how “weird” or “strange” BJ was all throughout the day. Was he “weird”? I guess. Define “weird”. Personally, I have always been told I was “weird” and I guess just like anything in life its all perception. In regards to BJ I will say he was eclectic, he was vibrant, he loved life and it’s expression regardless of what others thought, he dreamed big, he knew he knew the truth, wasn’t going to settle for current paradigms, saw a vision bigger than life, was determined to fulfill his purpose, and saw the world in the terms of what he knew could be rather than what won’t be. Call it “weird” if you want BUT his “weird” got us where we are today. That day in Sarasota, I really resonated with who BJ was and were he came from and realized that “weird” means leader. That day I realized that being “weird” means your vision is vast, that your purpose is intense, and that your convictions are deeply rooted and regardless of opposition you forge ahead. In this case I am definitely “weird” and extremely proud.
After we left his house, we headed to the Ringing Brothers Circus Museum. BJ loved the circus and spent a great deal of time at the circus. The circus was in fact why he moved to Sarasota. Having heard before of BJ’s love of the circus and questioning it, after seeing his house I now knew why he loved the circus. It goes back to being “weird”. The circus is “weird” with the fat lady, the fire breathers, sword swallowers, and vast array of unique individuals; I guarantee none of them ever thought BJ was “weird”. And as an added piece of info, there was an adjusting table in the Ringling Brothers home!
Saturday we were blessed to have Dr. Simon Senzon share with us even more history on BJ Palmer’s life. He truly was an amazing man, some information was a refresher and other information was new both took my love and admiration for BJ to the next level. Having walked through his house just 24 hours prior made me feel that much closer to the developer of our profession and even more grateful.
We could all stand to learn from BJ and realize that we must continually fulfill his vision, not for him, not for us, but for our future. We are borrowing this profession from our future just as BJ borrowed from us. May 27, 2011 marks the 50th anniversary of his death. On May 27th, I encourage you to join me as I sit silently and get even more clear on my vision, mission, and purpose not for me but for chiropractic and as a thank you to BJ for borrowing from me and giving it back better than he found it.
Thank you DD and BJ Palmer you are true visionaries and I am eternally grateful for your strength and determination.
Love. Laugh. Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl
Dr. Martha’s Monday Motivational
Monday, May 16, 2011
Can you remember the first time you fell “in love”. I was twelve years old and his name was Greg. I thought he hung the moon. He was the cool basketball player and I was a cheerleader. In my mind he was a hunk and I was a super lucky girl to be “going out” with him. Because we were in love I felt the need to tell everyone. I wanted to make sure that everyone knew I was head over heels for Greg. To make sure that everyone was clear he was mine I wrote his name on my jeans in pen (crossing fingers it would be permanent), I scribbled “I heart Greg” on my new white Keds, and made sure when decorating for basketball games my pom-pom hung on the wall by his basketball. It didn’t matter what others thought, it only matter that they knew I was all about Greg. As a constant reminder to all that he was mine I made sure to talk about him constantly day and night. Plain and simple, I was in love with Greg!
Looking back I am not sure I was really “in love” or maybe it’s just that my understanding of what “in love” is has just changed. One thing I do know is that I really, really liked Greg and was passionate about him. As I have aged falling in love is different, more real and with more substance. I have also come to the realization that falling in love is not limited to finding a mate.
What is falling love? I think it varies from person to person and from personality type to type, especially when we look at its expression. But, across the board its safe to say that falling in love creates a sense of invincibility that enables an individual do what may be considered “crazy”. The intense emotions that come from falling love almost gives the impression that when in love you are exactly that invincible.
The intensity of being “in love” escalates with age. Where in junior high you simply write on your jeans or held hands everywhere you went the stakes change. Driving hundreds of miles to spend a few hours with someone, talking endless hours on the phone, staying awake to talk rather than sleep, or even serenading publicly despite being tone deaf are all things which being in love will drive you to perform. Just like the stakes change as we age they also change when we go from person to career.
Passion can be equated to falling in love. We have all met those people who absolutely love what they do. Their sheer love of what they do evokes strong emotion from all who they come in contact with, paving a way for others to get lost in their euphoria. We call these people passionate and you could safely say that they were “in love” with what they do. Just talking to them gets your heart racing you are flooded with feel good endorphins. Listening to them express love for their what they do allows you, for a moment in time, to escape your world and enter into theirs. Many times their passion evokes such emotion that you are lead to purchase what they have to sell or find yourself wanting to learn more about their art or product. Passionate people will do whatever it takes to convey their message. They will write about it, wear clothing that expresses and educates, spend countless hours enhancing their knowledge, increasing awareness to the public, and the list goes on. Regardless of what they do it is safe to assume they are in love with their art.
Do people know what you do? Would people call you passionate? Does your love of what you do evoke an emotion from others? If so, awesome, keep up the great work! If not and it’s what you want then start to take ownership. Give yourself permission to fall in love with what you do. When we fall in love with a person the return is their love that gives a warmth in our heart and drives us to love more. Falling in love what you do is similar as it gives a return in the form of fulfillment and purpose compelling us to pour more of ourselves into what we do. The passion then becomes the fuel that drives us
Love. Laugh. Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl
Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivation
Monday, May 9, 2010
The majority of Americans let their genetics dictate their life. They live with the misconception that because generations of their family who walked before them were sick and dying that they too are sick and dying. They flood their mind with negative thoughts and they repeatedly say to themselves, limiting statements about their health, which hold them back. The statements vary but are similar in outcome: “All males in my family have died by sixty”, “High blood pressure runs in my family”, “In my family we all have a problem with weight”, “All the women in my family get breast cancer”, and a multitude of other “standards” that individuals set for themselves. The sad part is that these standards are limitations, which hold them back from the life they were entitled to live; all because they place all their bets on their genetics.
It’s important we understand the difference between genetics and epigenetics. Genetics deals with genes and heredity, that which is inherited from parent to offspring. Simply stated who we are comes from our ancestors, who they are makes us who we are, and their genetic history is a window into our future in terms of health. I am not denying that our genes play a role in who we are and where we are headed. Instead I am encouraging that we begin to understand epigentics and the impact it can have our health.
Epigenetics implies that we can alter our genetics through lifestyle choices because our gene expression can be altered via changes outside our DNA sequence. Because we can make alterations in our genetics, we can rest easy because our DNA does not have to dictate our destiny. The ability to alter our DNA and depends on the lifestyle choices we make.
Each and every day we make choices that alter our genetic make-up both positive and negative and most are directly related to that which we have learned from our MFTP (our mother, father, teachers, and preachers). Our MFTPs are with us from our earliest days guiding us and educating us, they are our role models throughout childhood and adolescence. Their lifestyle choices have a huge impact on the lifestyle choices that we make, they set the guidelines to which we follow.
When looking at the health of our parents, our grandparents, our great grand parents and so on; it is important that we also look at the path that lead them to their destination and compare it to your current path. Most people would be shocked to see how parallel their lifestyle runs to that of their family, therefore the similarity in their level of health is no surprise.
In order to move more towards health we need to make choices that catapult us in that direction rather than making choices that inhibit our progression toward wellness and anchor us to our genes. Positive choices that facilitate health must be made in the foods we eat, proper movement, positive thought, and preservation of our nervous system, which controls every cell in our body. Tracing back through negative choices you will see similarity in that of your MFTP. If they ate processed foods you most likely do to and if channel surfing was their exercise the same most likely rings true for you. Do you bombard yourself with negative thoughts? That is most likely how you were taught to think? If your parents believed that you slowly break down until you die then most likely you don’t believe that you were destined for an optimal life.
Believe me I am no exception to this rule. I was raised within the medical paradigm too, which has become the American standard, but I am here to tell you that you can make the shift necessary to alter your genetics. I have and while it has been a long road it has been a road worth traveling and a journey I continue each and every day. The beauty of choices are that they are choices, choices that you get to make. So what will you choose?
And remember you are not only choosing for yourself but for your offspring and theirs. Make a shift today not only for yourself but for those whose lives you will bring into this world.
Love. Laugh. Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl
Monday, May 2, 2011
At my mother’s funeral my father shared his heart and simply said, “I was lucky to known her at all”. I have lived my life with the premise that when people gather to celebrate my life those who celebrate it will say, “I was lucky to have known her at all”. What will people say when you leave this earth?
This past week the world has had two major deaths, Reverend David Wilkerson and Mr. Osama Bin Laden. Both men had an impact on society while they served their time on this earth but each impact was very different. The news of Rev. Wilkerson’s passing brought tears of sadness that comes with the passing of anyone who has such a profound impact. Upon his death across the world many joined in celebration of his life, his impact, and his accomplishments. The passing of Mr. Bin Laden was much different. Across the nation a sigh of relief was felt and tears of joy were shed. Across the world many are celebrating his passing rather than his contributions. When you die will people celebrate your life or death?
Personally, I have always tried to live my life so that after my journey on this earth that my life will be celebrated for the contributions and impacts I made. In order for there to be a celebration at the end of our lives we must properly live the first part of our lives. Janice Hughes says, “How you live one day is how you live your life”. How are you living your life?
We have multiple accounts in our life. The one we are most familiar with is a bank account. In back accounts we make both deposits and withdraws in the form of currency and it is important that withdraws never exceed our deposits. We also have many other accounts: relationship, societal, health, and a list of others. Just like in our bank account our deposits must be greater than the withdraws. When the withdraws are greater the account runs dry. When was the last time you assessed your accounts?
Rev. Wilkerson made many deposits and he served society-making use of his time on this earth. While I do not know the deposits made by Mr. Bin Laden I do know that his withdraws were that of a large scale. At their death their accounts were settled and the celebration of life or death was decided. What does your societal account look like?
I have lived my life and will continue throughout my journey blessing others in anyway that I can and contributing in anyway possible in to all my accounts. When I pass I want to be remembered for the blessings I was a part of and the lives I touched. When my account is settled I want my deposits to be greater than my withdraws. I am not aiming to live a life of perfection but a life worthy of reflection so that those who knew me “were lucky to have known me at all”.
Love. Laugh. Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl