Weird vs. Normal: Where Do You Fall?

Monday, June 13, 2011

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Define weird.  I am becoming more and more confused about the word weird and what it means.  I also am unclear as to whether or not I want to be called weird. I am not really sure that I am the weird one.   More and more I am thinking that weird should be the new “normal” and I may just be ok with being weird.   Bottom line I believe that “weird” is really normal.

I love my life and I want to live it full out. I always say that I want to fulfill my purpose and live out my journey rather than have to stop my journey because I am unable to fulfill my purpose.  In other words, I want to be healthy, wealthy, agile, and surrounded by people I love.  It sure beats the alternative: old, crippled, broke, and alone! My wants define my daily actions.  Wanting to be healthy, wealthy, agile, and surrounded by loving like-minded people while I live my life full out means that I need to defy the social “norm”. To get different results you have to do things differently.

It has been said that doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results equates to being insane.  Our society is clearly insane. It has been proven that working out increases your overall wellness, decreases your chances of heart disease, elevates your mood, and prolongs your life.  Yet, people remain sedentary? It has been proven that a diet high in fruits & vegetables, lean meats, nuts, and healthy fats is the appropriate fuel to run the human body at full capacity.  Yet, people eat processed foods and ignore the negative affects of the chemicals in these foods? Pharmaceuticals are constantly being pulled off the market for their horrible side effects, causing death, and manifesting more symptoms.  Yet, people continue to believe that the newest pill is the magic pill? Water increases our metabolism, rids our body of toxins, and hydrates our cells; it is vital for life.  Yet, people ignore water to quench their thirst with a soda full of chemicals? Artificial sweeteners are neuro toxins and cause cancer and diabetes, and paralyze the belly of the muscle while poisoning EVERY cell in the human body.  Yet, people say they have to have one because they are addicted, yeah they are; they are chemically addicted.  Vaccines have numerous side effects that range from autism to weakened immune system to paralysis to death.  Yet, out of fear people continue to get these poisons injected into them without even knowing why? The list goes on and to me it is all so weird but in today’s society it appears to be normal.

I have a different definition of normal.  I define normal eating as consuming wide ranges of fruits and vegetables, eating healthy nuts and fats, lean meat for protein, and eliminating grains and dairy. So I follow this for my meal plans. Exercise is important, both aerobic and anaerobic, and I believe that movement creates life.  By working out I know I will increase my life expectancy, decrease dis-ease, and eliminate stress in my life and the feel good endorphins are great tool to stave off depression. So I work out 5 days a week. I know that I need water to increase my overall health, rid my body of toxins, and to hydrate my cells and alkaline water is even better.  So I drink half my body weight in ounces a day.  I believe in the power of positive thought and fully respect that my thoughts create my reality. So I do my best to remain in a positive frame of mind I know that we are not chemical beings and that drugs alter my natural state.  I cringe when I read the negative side effects and have no desire to make one symptom leave and replace it with another.  I know that humans are self -healing and that a balanced nervous system equates to a system free of dis-ease.  I know that dis-ease leads to disease so my chiropractor checks me once a week. I know the power of chiropractic so I get adjusted.   The combination of all the above provides the recipe necessary to live an optimal life.  To me this is normal and to others I appear to be weird.

Weird vs. normal, much like life it is how you look at it.  So, what am I? I’m me and I plan on living my life full out and enjoying every minute of it.  I want to make the most of my journey and make memories along the way.  I want to be pain free, healthy, wealthy, peaceful and in the company of great friends.  And most of all I want to bless others and share my love of life and my knowledge of wellness and if I get called weird along the way so be it! Weird or not you only get one life, live it full out.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler

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Stepping Stones in The Journey of Life

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivation

Monday, June 6th, 2011

This past weekend I had the honor of standing in support of my brother, Jon Nessler, as he married the love of his life, Morgan Finley.  I have had the honor of standing up in many weddings, nineteen to be exact.  It is unexplainable to stand with a couple as they pledge their love and devotion to one another and begin their journey as one.

As Morgan walked down the aisle toward my brother, his face in awe as his bride approached him, my eyes filled with tears of joy.  As the oldest sibling I have always wanted the best for each of my brothers and my sister and the look on his face let me know that he had found that in Morgan.  I knew the day he met her something was different about her and as their solo journey continued, I knew they would share a joined journey in this life together.

Life really is all about the journey and not the destination; to me destination is too final.  Personally, I don’t know that there is a set destination but rather stepping stones at which we stop along the way.  Each stepping stone is an opportunity to reflect.

As we travel the journey of life we constantly evolve.  We grow from our experiences, the places we go, and the people we meet. At a stepping-stone it is a great time to evaluate all that you have picked up along the way and show gratitude for the person you have become.  It is also a great place to drop of excess baggage that is slowing your pace on your journey. Excess baggage is anything that is holding us back from being the best versions of ourselves.  Stepping-stones are necessary and pivotal. They are chapters in our book of life.

I am in the process of writing a book about my life, so I have been taking a detailed walk down memory lane.  I am so grateful for the journey that has brought me to the stepping-stone I stand today and I am eager to continue to the next.  Looking back over my life I can’t say that I regret any of my stops along the way.  I am grateful for each one, as it has contributed to the person I have become and am excited to watch myself grow as I reach the next.

I realized I haven’t always done the necessary house keeping at every stepping stone so at the one I am currently at I chose to assess the stepping stones that brought me to the stone I stand today.  House keeping to me is the same as tying up loose ends as to close one door before opening the next.  What an awesome process, while it was some what exhausting it was exilirating to know that I would be moving forward FREE.

Looking back over my journey has reminded me that we are all constantly evolving into better versions of the person we were just the minute before.  I have come so far in my thirty-one years and I can’t wait to see who I am in my next 31.  I think we all need to take a little time to reflect on where we have been, I think knowing where you have been gives you a better sense of where you want to go.

For Jon and Morgan this was a HUGE stepping-stone.  At this stone they joined together in each other’s journey, their two journeys became one.  Their next stepping stone will allow them to see how far they have come and give them a refreshed excitement of where they are headed.  The same holds true for all of us.  Take some time to reflect and give thanks, then sit back and enjoy the journey.

Dr. Martha Nessler

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

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Are You In A Relationship Triangle?

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, May 30, 2011

Are you in a relationship triangle? And no I don’t mean a confusing triangle involving you and two other people that is full of drama and question marks. I am speaking of a relationship triangle that involves you, the person you are in a relationship with, and the goals you have for your relationship.  I have used the relationship triangle since I was 16 years old, when I  used it to explain to my boyfriend at the time why we weren’t going to work; we simply had different goals and were headed in different directions.  I have used it many times and it has served me well.

Relationships come in many types with the most common being love, work, friendship, and family.  In every relationship the objective is to grow closer while the level of closeness varies the objective remains to move in a direction that creates a bond of trust and respect.  To facilitate the growth of relationships both parties have to be working toward the same set of goals that will allow the relationship to strengthen.  If both parties are not moving toward the same goals they move apart from each person because one person grows while the other remains idle, barely moves, or regresses. It’s inevitable if one person loses focus of the relationship that rather than growing closer the two parties begin to gain distance and their bond weakens. The relationship triangle is a great tool that allows you to facilitate growth in your relationships.  All you need is a pen, piece of paper, the person you are in a relationship with, and the goals of the relationship.

Draw a triangle, a perfect equilateral triangle.  In one lower corner write your name and draw an arrow pointing up toward the tip of the triangle and do the same thing in the opposing corner with the other person in the relationship Now with that person begin to get clear on the goals of the relationship, clearly write them at the top of the triangle.  When both people are working toward the goals of the relationship then both begin to move closer to the tip and therefore closer together.  When someone begins to get lax or loses focus the two grow farther and farther apart.  The triangle is a great tool to facilitate growth.

I, personally, use the triangle in all my relationships and am now introducing it in to my practice.  The relationship triangle will allow me to help my practice members to clearly define and reach their goals and stay focused.  I place  “Dr. Martha and team” in one corner and the practice members name in the opposing.  At the tip I write out all their goals and ask them to get crystal clear on what exactly health looks like for them if they could have anything they want and what that looks like.   It allows them to clearly define their goals and to know what they are working toward.  The relationship triangle also keeps them accountable because at the top you also write your goals for them so they know exactly what you expect from them.  Expectation management is crucial in successful relationships keeping everyone on the same page and headed toward the same goal.  Giving your practice member a “map” such as the relationship triangle allows them to know where chiropractic is taking them and keeps them on track.  The relationship triangle is a great accountability for the chiropractor and the practice member.  My practice members are responding with enthusiasm and thanking me for the “map”.

Just as this triangle works in practice member-chiropractor relationships it works in all relationships allowing clarity, expectation management, and facilitating growth.  It is important to know where you are headed in any relationship.  I always say if you don’t know where you are headed, how do you know where you are going? The relationship triangle keeps everyone focused!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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My Walk Through BJ Palmer’s World

Dr.  Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, May 23,  2011

“Walk a mile in a man’s shoes and you will see what it is like to be him and you may shift your perspective”, my grandmother said this to me any time I began to judge another.  It was an awesome lesson to learn at such a young age and I have used it many times throughout my life.  This is simple lesson has allowed me to view the world with eyes wide open.

This weekend I attended the Winner’s Circle Weekend put on by The Masters Circle in Sarasota, Fl.   Knowing that BJ Palmer had a house there where he spent his last days and wrote many of his books, I had a hunch what one event of the “secret” weekend might be a visit there.  Little did I know the entire weekend I would be walking in BJ Palmer’s shoes?

Friday morning we started the day at BJ’s house.  As I exited the van, a silence swept over me as I realized I was about to walk through the house where BJ walked, slept, ate, had conversations with friends, wrote books, dreamed, passed on from his mortal life, and so much more.  I was overwhelmed with emotions and still at this time I don’t think I could fully list all the emotions I felt; it may take awhile or I may never delineate them.

My journey began walking up the driveway and past his dolphin fountain, his head cast, and his signature in cement I felt a sense of overwhelm realizing I was walking through a piece of history.  I walked up the vibrant, primary stone path that lead to the door and entered into the developer of chiropractic’s home and for the two hours I was allotted I would be slipping into his shoes and see the world as he saw it.  I’ve always loved seeing friends homes, in my opinion, it allows you to see who they really as our homes are expressions of who we are as individuals.

As I walked through his house it was eclectic to say the least, some said it was wild and I even heard “weird” to me it felt just right. I can honestly say it felt like home.  I’ve been through so many museums; my dad wanted us to know our history, and in all the museums I have been through I have never been to one that was so “real”.  Dr. Sid, who has a summer residence next door, did an awesome job preserving BJ’s home and in doing so has preserved BJ’s legacy.

BJ’s house was an expression of who he was a brilliant visionary and took the idea of his father and made it a household name.  Love him or hate him he believed in Innate and knew that’s expression was imperative for full expression of life. His house was much the same, an expression of his life.  The house was filled with history; I thoroughly walked each hallway making sure to absorb every bit of information possible.

I had several pivotal moments but want to share with you the three most pivotal.  As I stood in his bedroom at the foot of the bed in which he passed flipping through pictures and paperwork in plastic coverings.  In one of the plastic coverings was the death certificate of BJ and DD right next to each other.  On the back of the same plastic covering were photos of his funeral.  Even as I write this, I am overwhelmed with emotion. One photo was an image of him in his casket, as I looked at his face laying there tears filled my eyes.  At that time his death was so real and I quietly thanked him for the strength of his vision and for fulfilling his purpose regardless of what anyone thought and regardless of the opposition. BJ is truly a pioneer and he is a man of strength, dedication, and determination. We could all learn a lot from BJ Palmer and the foundation he laid so that chiropractic has its place. We MUST preserve our heritage.

My next pivotal moment was in the same room where I stepped into his giant wooden clogs, they were huge.  The moment I slid my feet into the clogs, I attempted to wrap myself around the realization of what big shoes I have to fill.  I have always thought that but this time my thought was a bit different.  This time I didn’t ask how I was going to get them to fit or wonder when I was going to “grow into them”. This time I just accepted these were my shoes and I would make them fit.  I was handed the shoes of BJ, DD, and many others the day I received my diploma and especially with the current state of chiropractic, I have no choice but to wear them even if I have to shove toilet paper into them to make them fit or wear two pairs of socks.  I also realized I wouldn’t have been given the shoes if I wasn’t prepared to wear them and that it was my own thoughts keeping them from fitting.  Regardless, since that day I have thought twice about the shoes I was called to step into and I have been wearing them with even more pride.

The last moment was extremely personal and hit me at a soul level.  There was a picture on the wall about leadership.  To sum it up, as I don’t have know it verbatim, leadership is lonely at times, the more opposition you face and more you are thought to be controversial the more you are leading.  Isn’t that the truth? I heard many times how “weird” or “strange” BJ was all throughout the day.   Was he “weird”? I guess. Define “weird”.  Personally, I have always been told I was “weird” and I guess just like anything in life its all perception.  In regards to BJ I will say he was eclectic, he was vibrant, he loved life and it’s expression regardless of what others thought, he dreamed big, he knew he knew the truth, wasn’t going to settle for current paradigms, saw a vision bigger than life, was determined to fulfill his purpose, and saw the world in the terms of what he knew could be rather than what won’t be.  Call it “weird” if you want BUT his “weird” got us where we are today. That day in Sarasota, I really resonated with who BJ was and were he came from and realized that “weird” means leader.  That day I realized that being “weird” means your vision is vast, that your purpose is intense, and that your convictions are deeply rooted and regardless of opposition you forge ahead.  In this case I am definitely “weird” and extremely proud.

After we left his house, we headed to the Ringing Brothers Circus Museum.  BJ loved the circus and spent a great deal of time at the circus. The circus was in fact why he moved to Sarasota.  Having heard before of BJ’s love of the circus and questioning it, after seeing his house I now knew why he loved the circus.  It goes back to being “weird”.  The circus is “weird” with the fat lady, the fire breathers, sword swallowers, and vast array of unique individuals; I guarantee none of them ever thought BJ was “weird”.  And as an added piece of info, there was an adjusting table in the Ringling Brothers home!

Saturday we were blessed to have Dr. Simon Senzon share with us even more history on BJ Palmer’s life.  He truly was an amazing man, some information was a refresher and other information was new both took my love and admiration for BJ to the next level.  Having walked through his house just 24 hours prior made me feel that much closer to the developer of our profession and even more grateful.

We could all stand to learn from BJ and realize that we must continually fulfill his vision, not for him, not for us, but for our future.  We are borrowing this profession from our future just as BJ borrowed from us.  May 27, 2011 marks the 50th anniversary of his death.  On May 27th, I encourage you to join me as I sit silently and get even more clear on my vision, mission, and purpose not for me but for chiropractic and as a thank you to BJ for borrowing from me and giving it back better than he found it.

Thank you DD and BJ Palmer you are true visionaries and I am eternally grateful for your strength and determination.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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Can You Fall in Love With What You Do?

Dr. Martha’s Monday Motivational

Monday, May 16, 2011

Can you remember the first time you fell “in love”.  I was twelve years old and his name was Greg.  I thought he hung the moon.  He was the cool basketball player and I was a cheerleader.  In my mind he was a hunk and I was a super lucky girl to be “going out” with him. Because we were in love I felt the need to tell everyone.  I wanted to make sure that everyone knew I was head over heels for Greg.  To make sure that everyone was clear he was mine I wrote his name on my jeans in pen (crossing fingers it would be permanent), I scribbled “I heart Greg” on my new white Keds, and made sure when decorating for basketball games my pom-pom hung on the wall by his basketball.  It didn’t matter what others thought, it only matter that they knew I was all about Greg. As a constant reminder to all that he was mine I made sure to talk about him constantly day and night.  Plain and simple, I was in love with Greg!

Looking back I am not sure I was really “in love” or maybe it’s just that my understanding of what “in love” is has just changed.  One thing I do know is that I really, really liked Greg and was passionate about him.  As I have aged falling in love is different, more real and with more substance. I have also come to the realization that falling in love is not limited to finding a mate.

What is falling love? I think it varies from person to person and from personality type to type, especially when we look at its expression.  But, across the board its safe to say that falling in love creates a sense of invincibility that enables an individual do what may be considered “crazy”. The intense emotions that come from falling love almost gives the impression that when in love you are exactly that invincible.

The intensity of being “in love” escalates with age.  Where in junior high you simply write on your jeans or held hands everywhere you went the stakes change.  Driving hundreds of miles to spend a few hours with someone, talking endless hours on the phone, staying awake to talk rather than sleep, or even serenading publicly despite being tone deaf are all things which being in love will drive you to perform.  Just like the stakes change as we age they also change when we go from person to career.

Passion can be equated to falling in love.  We have all met those people who absolutely love what they do.  Their sheer love of what they do evokes strong emotion from all who they come in contact with,  paving a way for others to get lost in their euphoria.  We call these people passionate and you could safely say that they were “in love” with what they do. Just talking to them gets your heart racing you are flooded with feel good endorphins. Listening to them express love for their what they do allows you, for a moment in time, to escape your world and enter into theirs.  Many times their passion evokes such emotion that  you are lead to purchase what they have to sell or find yourself wanting to learn more about their art or product.  Passionate people will do whatever it takes to convey their message.  They will write about it, wear clothing that expresses and educates, spend countless hours enhancing their knowledge, increasing awareness to the public, and the list goes on.  Regardless of what they do it is safe to assume they are in love with their art.

Do people know what you do?  Would people call you passionate? Does your love of what you do evoke an emotion from others? If so, awesome, keep up the great work! If not and it’s what you want then start to take ownership.  Give yourself permission to fall in love with what you do. When we fall in love with a person the return is their love that gives a warmth in our heart and drives us to love more.  Falling in love what you do is similar as it gives a return in the form of fulfillment and purpose compelling us to pour more of ourselves into what we do.  The passion then becomes the fuel that drives us

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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Your Genetics Are Not Your Destiny or Are They?

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivation

Monday, May 9, 2010

The majority of Americans let their genetics dictate their life.   They live with the misconception that because generations of their family who walked before them were sick and dying that they too are sick and dying.  They flood their mind with negative thoughts and they repeatedly say to themselves, limiting statements about their health, which hold them back.  The statements vary but are similar in outcome: “All males in my family have died by sixty”, “High blood pressure runs in my family”, “In my family we all have a problem with weight”, “All the women in my family get breast cancer”, and a multitude of other “standards” that individuals set for themselves.  The sad part is that these standards are limitations, which hold them back from the life they were entitled to live; all because they place all their bets on their genetics.

It’s important we understand the difference between genetics and epigenetics. Genetics deals with genes and heredity, that which is inherited from parent to offspring. Simply stated who we are comes from our ancestors, who they are makes us who we are, and their genetic history is a window into our future in terms of health.  I am not denying that our genes play a role in who we are and where we are headed. Instead I am encouraging that we begin to understand epigentics and the impact it can have our health.

Epigenetics implies that we can alter our genetics through lifestyle choices because our gene expression can be altered via changes outside our DNA sequence.  Because we can make alterations in our genetics, we can rest easy because our DNA does not have to dictate our destiny. The ability to alter our DNA and depends on the lifestyle choices we make.

Each and every day we make choices that alter our genetic make-up both positive and negative and most are directly related to that which we have learned from our MFTP (our mother, father, teachers, and preachers).  Our MFTPs are with us from our earliest days guiding us and educating us, they are our role models throughout childhood and adolescence. Their lifestyle choices have a huge impact on the lifestyle choices that we make, they set the guidelines to which we follow.

When looking at the health of our parents, our grandparents, our great grand parents and so on; it is important that we also look at the path that lead them to their destination and compare it to your current path.  Most people would be shocked to see how parallel their lifestyle runs to that of their family, therefore the similarity in their level of health is no surprise.

In order to move more towards health we need to make choices that catapult us in that direction rather than making choices that inhibit our progression toward wellness and anchor us to our genes.  Positive choices that facilitate health must be made in the foods we eat, proper movement, positive thought, and preservation of our nervous system, which controls every cell in our body.  Tracing back through negative choices you will see similarity in that of your MFTP.  If they ate processed foods you most likely do to and if channel surfing was their exercise the same most likely rings true for you.  Do you bombard yourself with negative thoughts? That is most likely how you were taught to think? If your parents believed that you slowly break down until you die then most likely you don’t believe that you were destined for an optimal life.

Believe me I am no exception to this rule.  I was raised within the medical paradigm too, which has become the American standard, but I am here to tell you that you can make the shift necessary to alter your genetics.  I have and while it has been a long road it has been a road worth traveling and a journey I continue each and every day.  The beauty of choices are that they are choices, choices that you get to make.  So what will you choose?

And remember you are not only choosing for yourself but for your offspring and theirs.  Make a shift today not only for yourself but for those whose lives you will bring into this world.

Love.  Laugh.  Adjust.
Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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A Celebration of Life or A Celebration of Death?

Monday, May 2, 2011

At my mother’s funeral my father shared his heart and simply said, “I was lucky to known her at all”.  I have lived my life with the premise that when people gather to celebrate my life those who celebrate it will say, “I was lucky to have known her at all”. What will people say when you leave this earth?

This past week the world has had two major deaths, Reverend David Wilkerson and Mr. Osama Bin Laden.  Both men had an impact on society while they served their time on this earth but each impact was very different.  The news of Rev. Wilkerson’s passing brought tears of sadness that comes with the passing of anyone who has such a profound impact.  Upon his death across the world many joined in celebration of his life, his impact, and his accomplishments.  The passing of Mr. Bin Laden was much different.  Across the nation a sigh of relief was felt and tears of joy were shed.  Across the world many are celebrating his passing rather than his contributions.  When you die will people celebrate your life or death?

Personally, I have always tried to live my life so that after my journey on this earth that my life will be celebrated for the contributions and impacts I made. In order for there to be a celebration at the end of our lives we must properly live the first part of our lives.  Janice Hughes says, “How you live one day is how you live your life”.  How are you living your life?

We have multiple accounts in our life.  The one we are most familiar with is a bank account.  In back accounts we make both deposits and withdraws in the form of currency and it is important that withdraws never exceed our deposits.  We also have many other accounts: relationship, societal, health, and a list of others. Just like in our bank account our deposits must be greater than the withdraws.  When the withdraws are greater the account runs dry.  When was the last time you assessed your accounts?

Rev. Wilkerson made many deposits and he served society-making use of his time on this earth.  While I do not know the deposits made by Mr. Bin Laden I do know that his withdraws were that of a large scale.  At their death their accounts were settled and the celebration of life or death was decided.  What does your societal account look like?

I have lived my life and will continue throughout my journey blessing others in anyway that I can and contributing in anyway possible in to all my accounts.  When I pass I want to be remembered for the blessings I was a part of and the lives I touched.  When my account is settled I want my deposits to be greater than my withdraws.  I am not aiming to live a life of perfection but a life worthy of reflection so that those who knew me “were lucky to have known me at all”.

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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