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Stillness in the Eye of the Storm Stay Well

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Wednesday, June 27, 2011

This spring there was an extremely large number of tornadoes that unleashed their devastation upon thousands and thousands of people. Tornadoes are intense; they are a destructive vortex of violent winds that rotate and  form a funnel.   This funnel wreaks havoc on anything in its path.  While the gusting winds produced by the tornado are intense and dangerous; tornadoes are most powerful in their center.  The center of the tornado is called the “eye”, which is where we get the term “eye of the storm”. Aren’t the tornadoes in our lives the same? At the height of the situation, they are more emotional and consume more of our energy.  Storms in our lives are much like storms in nature, their duration, severity, and devastation vary.

Often in our own lives we get in tornadoes of intense emotion; sometimes we know we are in the tornado and other times we have no idea until we are out. Recently, I was in a tornado in my own life.  An emotional tornado in which I believed I was in control.  Now that I am out I realize the intensity of the storm and the power of which it had over me.  But, even in the most intense times of the storm I remember thinking “I have this”.  Of course I did, I was in the eye of the storm, the center, where the storm is the most powerful.  As an emotional being I took on the power of the storm and assumed that power as my own when in fact I was powerless.

Much like in the aftermath of a storm I am currently being still and in the stillness I am able to reflect.  It is so important that after storms we take time to heal and allow ourselves to go through the collage of emotions that come with such a storm.  After a natural devastation, towns take time to heal and rebuild, the same is necessary for us as human beings.  We need time to reflect on what we learned, what the process meant, and where we are going now in our journey.  Being still is hard especially for energetic people like me but it is crucial.  In stillness we are able to re-connect with our own heart and hear the song of our soul.  With stillness comes clarity and with clarity comes gratitude.

Gratitude is interesting, so often we are only grateful for what we consider to be a positive blessing and what we consider to be negative we think of as a nuisance rather than acknowledging it for the part it played in our lives.  I always remind people that it is important to find gratitude for all things even the ones that we view as negative.  I say “view” because it is the connotation we give the situation as opposed to the reality of the situation.  Much as anything in life “everything is nothing until we give it meaning in one way or the other”.  Many times natural storms and disasters are viewed as negative because of the destruction when they are a necessary evil so that the universe can remain in balance.  We just give them a negative meaning because of the destruction rather than realizing it is all a part of the process and it is still imperative that we express gratitude.

We will always have storms; they are a part of life.  As in any situation, embracing it for the growth that it is providing is more beneficial than having resentment for the pain that may come with it.  Giving it the recognition it deserves for the lessons it brought to you is when healing begins to take place.  Fully embrace each and every minute of this wonderful life you live even the ones that are less enjoyable.  Life requires balance to keep you in balance, don’t try to fight it or understand it.  Sit back and allow the process to unfold.

Trying to fight natural process causes un-needed stress.  In today’s society, we are inundated with stress in all forms: chemical, physical, and emotional.  Stress is toxic to the body and causes dis-ease within the body; dis-ease leads to disease.  Attempting to fight situations, stressing over their outcome, or attempting to control or re-direct the outcome causes stress to your overall body.  Stress has a direct effect on your nervous system, which affects your immune system and your overall wellness.  Letting go of the outcome is not always easy but is necessary to keep your stress down and your wellness up! It will all play out!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

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Would You Jump off a Bridge if Everyone Else Did?

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Monday, April 4, 2011

As a child you may remember being asked, “Would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?” This statement was usually the response you received when wanting to do what everyone else was doing or having made a decision based off of your friends and not common sense.  Your response to your parents probably coincided with your personality or mood and ranged from: “No!” “Yes, I would.” “It depends on how high the bridge is…” or some other creative response depending on your level of sarcasm.  Regardless of your given verbal response the internal response was “No way! That’s a stupid question.” Whether or not you would jump off the bridge was meant to get you thinking.  It was more of a “use your head better” metaphor.

In my thirties, I find myself becoming more and more like my dad.  Making sure I get to bed on time, budgeting, running businesses, cleaning the house, being rational, and many other things that scare me for a second and then I realize maturing is a good thing.  Maturing doesn’t mean I am getting older but rather wiser.  I can stomach getting wiser!

One of the many things I realized today is that “Would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?” is more and more prevalent EVERYDAY in my life.  I decided recently it is the perfect rhetorical question to use as a response to get people to THINK! I haven’t started saying it YET but this May is about to be the start of yet another thing I do that my father does.  Thank God he turned out OK!

I am constantly educating people on the “what to do’s” in life.  And they are shocked! Because it is different than what they were taught by there MFTPs (mother, father, teacher, preacher) and different than what everyone else is doing.  The social norm to them is less scary but this is all perception because to me the social norm is scarier as it leads down the path of sickness, disease, poverty, and negativity.

There are a few things that I personally believe it is ok to take the option less frequently picked and not jump off the bridge with everyone else.  In my opinion, there are some choices that need thought, deep thought because making the choice that everyone else in the United States makes is pretty much jumping off a bridge.  Choices regarding Healthcare/Lifestyle, Thought, and Finances are probably the tallest three bridges with the shallowest water.

Healthcare, unless you live in a Redwood tree in California and are pretty much removed from society you know that our healthcare system is on a downhill slope and is headed NOWHERE and fast! Yet, people refuse to make any necessary changes.  They keep doing the same things they have been doing and expecting change.  The lifestyle choices we make play a HUGE roll in the decline of the American healthcare system.  The irony is that when recommendations are made to stop fast food, quit diet coke, eat live and healthy foods, get regular chiropractic care, exercise, stop all vaccines and the abuse of pharmaceutical meds there is hesitation.  Personally, I don’t get it. What the average person in America is doing is not working YET they continue to do it out of fear of being different.  Yet, being different would be being healthy, see the irony?  I have decided the perfect rhetorical question to use as a response for those who question advice on healthcare and lifestyle is simple “Would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?”

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Example:

Me: “I really think you should stop eating fast food as it has more negative than positive effects to the human body, is useless for nutritional purposes, and doesn’t decompose in landfills.”

Person: “Everyone else eats and they aren’t dead.”

Me: “They aren’t dead YET. Would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?”

Person: “Well no that’s a stupid question.”

Me: “Define Stupid Question?”

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Thought is another bridge above shallow water.  Many people live with the misconception that their thoughts are separate from their reality.  They have no idea that their thoughts DIRECTLY affect their reality.  That when their thoughts are positive, happy, full of joy, and affirming that their life is the same and abundant.  The same holds true of negative, dark, disturbing, dreary, negative past experience thoughts hold them back and rob them of a life of abundance, keeping them in their past.

We are always reminded, as children to choose our words wisely as to not hurt others because you can’t take words back once they are said.  The same rings true today, its imperative to choose our words and just as importantly our thoughts.  Realizing the power of thoughts allows you to begin to speak your life into existence.  Your words and thoughts should be catapults as opposed to anchors that hold you in your past or keep you from growing and progressing.  Speak wisely and positively, words and thoughts matter.

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Example:

Me: “Did you know you have the ability to control the outcome of your life by the words you choose.  For example, using loving and affirming words and thought will create a life that is abundant in love and blessings.””

Person: “Sounds like hocus pocus, everyone I know speaks like I do and they are fine.  Life is what life is what it is and something you have to do.  You are weird.”

Me: “That’s where we differ I see life as a “get to” and not a “have to” because I think it’s a “get to”! See the difference?”

Person: “I am sticking to what everyone else does makes more sense.”

Me: “You have that right, life is beautiful as it is your choice.  But, if everyone jumped off a bridge would you do it because that made more sense because they were jumping or would you step out of your comfort zone?”

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Just like most areas in our life finances are one that we learn from watching others whether family, people in our sphere of influence, or just society.  The irony is that the current model that we as Americans have is not working.  As a nation we are in debt and the average person is financially floundering.  The average American has multiple credit cards with outstanding debt, has a lack of savings and what they do have saved they have in an inaccessible location until a certain age or there are penalties.  To sum it up, most have no money and the majority of those with money have no control over their finances and their money is unattainable.  Financially they are out of balance.  Having one area out of balance throws all areas out of balance whether business, finances, relationships, etc… we must retain the intricate balance to have a solid foundation for growth.

There are so many things outside of the social norm that will allow you to obtain financial balance yet people are so afraid to step out of their comfort zone.  Creating a budget is the first easy step to make sure that you are spending within your limits and not living outside your means.  Placing 10% of your paycheck into savings and always having three months salary is a great way to feel secure because you actually have security.  Using a whole life insurance policy rather than the usual 401K allows you to over fund and still have money which is accessible if an emergency arises.   The aforementioned are some simple tricks of the many out there yet people are afraid to step out and forge a path that is different from society.

Many times I give them my friend Dr. Janice Hughes book, Inspired Wealth, to help them understand that while it is a road less traveled it is the road to financial balance. (If you want more info on her book let me know.) Jumping off the financial bridge with everyone else will be sure to land you in a pool of debt make sure you don’t follow the masses on this one!

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Example:

Me: “How is your financial situation?”

Person: “Oh you know robbing Peter to pay Paul.  Thank God for my 401K!”

Me:  “You know there a lot of little adjustments you can make in terms of your finances such as whole life insurance, monthly budgeting, and saving 10%, right?

Person: “That seems a little farfetched. I appreciate it but Ill stick with the way my parents and grandparents did it!”

Me: “I get your hesitation to try something new, but I do believe it is worth a try!  I mean just because everyone jumps off a bridge doesn’t mean you will, right?”

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Just like in your childhood the statement, “would you jump off a bridge if everyone else did?” was meant to make you think about your own choices and not the choices of others the same holds true today! So, start thinking for yourself and realizing different can be good especially when it opens doors to an abundant future! Life is to be enjoyed and we are meant to live a life full of blessings.  God wants us to live our life full out and have an abundance of blessings and riches! We just have to believe that and be willing to make choices that separate us from the pack! Simply stated we have to be willing to not jump off the bridge when everyone else does!

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

Dr. Martha Nessler, Innate Girl

 

 

 

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January 11, 2010 Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

January 11, 2010

Our thoughts create our reality…a positive mindset is imperative.  Developing a positive mindset is a powerful life strategy, which allows us to achieve whatever we desire.  What is your self-talk like? Is it positive? Is it encouraging? After all you are your own #1 fan…cheer yourself on! Daily positive affirmations and positive thinking will allow you to develop the positive attitude necessary to strengthen your inner power! Speak to yourself as though it is and watch it manifest! Be limitless!

Dr. Martha’s Monday Morning Motivational

Love. Laugh. Adjust.

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